Narcissistic or not?
Hello Everyone,
What happens when we
overpraise? Research from the
Proceedings of the National Academy of Science indicates that overpraising
children can cause them to be narcissistic.
A narcissistic child leads to a narcissistic adult.
Narcissism, as you are probably aware
is from Greek mythology. Narcissus's vanity was so great that when
he fell in love with his own reflection in a pond he lost balance and
drowned.
Narcissism in children is thought to be either
a defence mechanism to help them cope
with lack of parental attention, or the result of too much praise.
Brummelman from the University of Amsterdam
believes narcissism is on the rise in the west.
The key point seems to be that we would be
best advised to give accurate and loving feedback to others whether they are
children or adults. It does not do anyone a service to fudge or gloss
over their mistakes/shortcomings. Accurate, honest feedback with the
intention of leaving the other person empowered will be far more effective.
Valuing not overvaluing is best.
Roz Townsend www.roztownsend.com
To read more of these ideas see Roz's latest
books Future Words and Love Well available on Amazon.
Source
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/03/150309145019.htm
